How I Navigate the Paradox of Being Myself and Being with Others

I Learned to embrace vulnerability and authenticity

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From the moment I became aware of myself, I’ve been comparing myself to others and seeking their approval. As a child, I looked up to my parents and wanted to be like them. As I got older, I started comparing myself to my peers and wanting to fit in. It’s human nature to want to belong and be accepted by others. As I’ve grown older, I’ve realized that this need for connection and validation never truly disappears. I look to others for guidance, support, and recognition; their opinions can significantly impact my sense of self.

Reflecting on my life experiences, I realize that finding a balance between my needs and the importance of relationships with others is crucial to my well-being. On the one hand, having a solid sense of self and independence is essential. It is knowing what I want, setting boundaries, and prioritizing my well-being. However, on the other hand, I recognize that I cannot exist in isolation. I need others to form connections and create meaning in my life.

At times, this can feel like a delicate balancing act. On the one hand, I don’t want to become too reliant on others for my own sense of self-worth. On the other hand, I don’t want to become so self-focused that I neglect the…